A new blogger posted about search engine words that lead to his blog. I look at them occasionally and usually get a good laugh. The book "50 Shades" still tops the list of google hits. That post should be ancient history by now but for some reason it is still popular.
Romantic spanking is another recent search on the list. I had to sit back and think on this one for a few minutes. Is spanking romantic? Can it be? Hmmmm. I haven't really thought about it before.
A punishment is never romantic. I know a rule has been broken. It was bad enough that Dragon has decided punishment is needed to make sure it never happens again. I'm not sure which is worse. The anticipation of the pain, knowing I disappointed him or the humiliation of being there to begin with. Fear, nervous, disappointed, humiliated and sometimes angry. Not emotions I would associate with romance.
Punishment allows us to clear the air and leads to a more romantic marriage. I'll admit that. It takes what could be a serious breach in our relationship and end to it. A punishment is not something either one of us want to repeat. The humiliation, shame and tears are hard on both of us. If the emotions aren't enough of a deterrent, the pain on my backside is more than enough! Dragon gets to the point fast and makes every swat count. By the end of it I am begging for the spanking to end.
Sometimes the after effects can be romantic. When I curl up in his lap with his arms around me. The tears that I have held back fall and he kisses them away. More often than not, we usually end up making love. The soft, gentile love making that takes my breath away. For weeks after a punishment we can't get enough of each other. Our entire relationship takes on different dynamic in the afterglow.
Are other types of spanking romantic?
Now that is a harder question to answer. Maintenance, stress relief, reconciliation and pleasure spanking are all very closely related. They feel the same to me because they don't have the strong emotion associated with them. Sometimes my backside is bruised. Sometimes I only get a warm shade of pink and a little sting. I depends on what we both need that day. What I need out of the spanking is just as important as his needs. Lovemaking can be a part of these spankings but not always. Lovemaking does not always end in sex.
Romantic? I'll say that it can be but isn't always. It depends on where we both are emotionally and physically. I guess it really depends on how you define romance. Although my last spanking was connected with a scene that I called "mind blowing" it wasn't really romantic. Not in my mind anyway.
What are your thoughts on the topic? I would love to hear from my readers! Is spanking romantic for you? If so, how?