Monday, July 16, 2012

Romantic Spanking

A new blogger posted about search engine words that lead to his blog.  I look at them occasionally and usually get a good laugh.  The book "50 Shades" still tops the list of google hits.  That post should be ancient history by now but for some reason it is still popular.

Romantic spanking is another recent search on the list.  I had to sit back and think on this one for a few minutes.  Is spanking romantic?  Can it be?  Hmmmm.  I haven't really thought about it before.

A punishment is never romantic.  I know a rule has been broken.  It was bad enough that Dragon has decided punishment is needed to make sure it never happens again.  I'm not sure which is worse.  The anticipation of the pain, knowing I disappointed him or the humiliation of being there to begin with.   Fear, nervous, disappointed, humiliated and sometimes angry.  Not emotions I would associate with romance.

Punishment allows us to clear the air and leads to a more romantic marriage.  I'll admit that.  It takes what could be a serious breach in our relationship and end to it.  A punishment is not something either one of us want to repeat.  The humiliation, shame and tears are hard on both of us.  If the emotions aren't enough of a deterrent, the pain on my backside is more than enough!  Dragon gets to the point fast and makes every swat count.  By the end of it I am begging for the spanking to end.

Sometimes the after effects can be romantic.  When I curl up in his lap with his arms around me.  The tears that I have held back fall and he kisses them away.  More often than not, we usually end up making love.  The soft, gentile love making that takes my breath away.  For weeks after a punishment we can't get enough of each other.  Our entire relationship takes on different dynamic in the afterglow.

Are other types of spanking romantic?

Now that is a harder question to answer.  Maintenance, stress relief, reconciliation and pleasure spanking are all very closely related.  They feel the same to me because they don't have the strong emotion associated with them.  Sometimes my backside is bruised.  Sometimes I only get a warm shade of pink and a little sting. I depends on what we both need that day.  What I need out of the spanking is just as important as his needs.  Lovemaking can be a part of these spankings but not always.  Lovemaking does not always end in sex.

Romantic?  I'll say that it can be but isn't always.  It depends on where we both are emotionally and physically.  I guess it really depends on how you define romance.  Although my last spanking was connected with a scene that I called "mind blowing" it wasn't really romantic.  Not in my mind anyway.

What are your thoughts on the topic?  I would love to hear from my readers!  Is spanking romantic for you? If so, how?

12 comments:

  1. We have good girl spankings and I consider those romantic... A different headspace, a different reason for being there, a different outcome.

    Of course, we don't do punishment, and I tend to beg for spankings, so my opinion may be biased. :)

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    1. Not biased at all. Simply another way of looking at spanking. We spank for both pleasure and punishment. You and yours spank for pleasure. Thank you for adding your two cents!

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  2. For me there must be a romantic background for every spanking. I really would never consider spanking another woman than my wife. So some kind of romance must exist. And when romance is required for the spanking to actually happen, you can expect that the spanking influences the romantic feelings between my wife and I.
    Yes, that would make for a romantic spanking.

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    1. I have a hard time associating anything pleasant with spanking since we started DD. We have to work to keep fun spankings separate and different from punishment. Now sexuality can not be separated at all. From my husbands point of view, he has his wife naked and submitting to him. Big turn on for him and it doesn't matter what kind of spanking it is.

      I'll ask him about his view on Romance and Spanking. What will he say?

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  3. I have gotten one punishment spanking, and the rest is generally romantic, as in good girl spanking (my top search terms for my blog), and just maintenance. All types of spanking lead to sex for us though...

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  4. Our spanking is always for pleasure. They can hurt so good but it is most always a prelude to "dancing". They always connect us for days afterward too. They just don't happen often enough to suit me.

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    1. I know the feeling. We don't have the privacy or time to spank as much as we would like. Thank you for adding your 2 cents!

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  5. I think spanking can be romantic, but not always. For me, it's a matter of headspace. I have similar feelings to what you state about discipline. Romance is certainly not on my mind when that is happening. But there can be fun spankings, sexy sensual spankings, all kinds! It depends on my mood and his.

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  6. We're still just exploring good girl spankings, so very romantic at this point. I definitely have the privacy/time issue too!

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    1. I think anyone with a life has that issue! Have fun exploring!

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