(yes, I know, second post in one day) and another phrase that commonly leads to my blog.
I need the tears so very much. I need to feel the fall. I need the release that only tears can give.
I am very happy that Dragon doesn't think he has to spank me to tears every time. It has NEVER happened. My eyes have gotten a little moist but never a cleansing cry. I cried once after a punishment. Not a tear shed during. He tried to do it once and it ended in disaster. He took me right to the edge of endurance and just a shade too far on the other side of what I could take.
I don't think pain can make me cry. I have chronic pain. Hurting every day kinda takes the tears out of pain. Even when I am rating my pain at 8 or 9 I still don't cry. Dragon knows when it gets that bad because I get very still and quiet. I withdraw from the world to deal with this overwhelming sensation.
But back to my question. How or maybe Why do you cry during a spanking? I have seen women cry during a fun, sexy kind of spanking. Some cry during a maintenance and most women that blog cry during a punishment. I read posts where the men say a spanking isn't a spanking unless that are 20-100 good swats. That he must steel himself to continue until the HOH has reached that number. Doesn't matter how her backside looks or her level of distress. Yep. I am very happy Dragon isn't one of those! Dragon spanks until he feels my body accept the swats. It isn't relaxation. It is something else he feels in me that tells him the task is done. Not tears.
is it corner time? the lecture? shame? humiliation? Help me out here. Over 2 years of TTWD and I still have dry eyes.
I want to cry. I need to cry as the paddle falls and I don't know why I can't.
Oh well. No point in wanting it now. The paddle is too loud. Since we aren't in our own home we have to be very careful. I have a small hand of ginger to de-stress with tonight and Dragon is going to stop by and get some icy hot cream. I think I may take a stroll and see what kind of switch I can find too. It has been 30 years since I have felt a switch. From what i remember, they are deadly quiet and pack a wicked sting.
I have never been spanked to tears. Mainly, because like you, I can take a lot, and just take it in. I will pull into myself, and concentrate on that pain so much, but no tears. DH tried once, but we went a little to close to actually stepping over our bounds, and neither one of us wanted to go there.
ReplyDeleteI have only gotten one punishment ever, but I can see how corner time plus a really bad spanking would make me feel really bad about what I have done and that could lead to tears, but I try to be good to avoid those...
I try to avoid those too!
DeleteCannot say anything about the tears. Haven't seen them from Lisa ever.
ReplyDeleteBut I am shocked about your description of those HoH of steel. Form above substance in a human relation. I don't want to be associated with those men.
I have heard it from several men in the CDD yahoo group. I was shocked too and felt grateful for my old softy of a husband!
DeleteFor me, the tears now come fairly easily. It's not the pain. In fact during an intensely painful spanking, I am less likely to cry. It is more the mindset and conversation around the spanking. During it I eventually allow my walls to fall down and I feel. Then the tears flow. I know, each of us are so different.
ReplyDeleteI like my wall and I guess part of me doesn't want to let him see my tears. In that situation it is a matter of "never let them see you cry"
DeleteTears during a spanking? For me, no, that hasn't happened. I have cried either before or afterward, but not always then either.
ReplyDeleteIt usually takes me a few hours after the main event to cry.
DeleteI haven't cried, but we're just doing good girl spankings. When I mentioned spanking to tears my husband was revolted. We'll see, we're still newbies.
ReplyDeleteGood girl spankings are fun! Dragon revolted when he saw the first hand print on my backside. It took him months before he would spank me again!
DeleteIt is pretty rare for me to cry but it has happened a few times. On those occasions, it has been a combination of my mood, emotional state, a close connection with the spanker (because not anyone can get to me in that way), and what is being said. The pain is maybe a tiny bit of a factor but comes in last. When I'm in a disciplinary headspace, it is definitely the scolding/lecture/words that get to me the most. I could cry before he even lands a swat.
ReplyDeleteFor me the tears are 100% emotion. I have to get past the pain to cry.
DeleteNo tears here either but I will cry during a commercial before I cry from pain. That's the wy I am wired
ReplyDeletegirls help me out here i want my hoh to spank to tears becouse i cheated 5 times ! i feel so guilty that i know i need a severe spanking but when i ask they say i forgive you and could not bear to spank you to tears how do i get them mad enough to spank me to tears
ReplyDeleteplease see my blog entry "How do I get my husband to spank me" for my reply. An entry this old will not be seen by my regular readers.
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