I give up. Here it is. A step by step guide on spanking.
1. Lecture your wife. Be firm and make sure she knows how disappointed you are.
Who am I kidding? I can't write a step by step guide. There is no right way to do this thing we do. Every person is different. Every relationship is different. What works for you may be completely different from what works for me. That is okay.
A look may be enough but then again, you may need something more. Does time out work? A barn burner? Or maybe just a few light swats on the back side?
I can tell you how Dragon spanks me. I can share the few rules I have to follow. I can tell you about kneeling and submission from my point of view but I can't tell you how to do it. It is something that you have to figure out for yourself.
It is okay for dd to feel awkward at first. It is okay to have a few missteps. We have had our share of mistakes. From rules that don't work for us to spankings that ended to soon.
What makes this lifestyle work? Communion. Talk about it. Write things down if you need to. Just make sure that you are both on the same page. And here is the hard one. Be consistent. At the same time, it is okay to say "hey, let's take a break. I'm tired tonight" This is real life, not some pretend, make believe, role playing game. Give yourself some slack.
Most important of all is consent! When one says no more, you are done. I don't believe in this consensual non consent. It either is or it isn't. I consent to each and every spanking. Whether it is for fun or for punishment. No is no. It is the difference between TTWD and abuse. No fine lines there. It is simple.
and last but not least Compassion
How do you spank your wife? The way that works for both of you.