Thursday, January 17, 2013

submission is a gift?

Is submission really a gift?

I don't think so.

I submit for purely selfish reasons.  Some of them may not sound so selfish but really they are.   I like it when he is happy and satisfied.  I enjoy seeing his smile as he walks in the door.  The soft thank you I hear when I have done something for him.  When I submit to him he is more attuned to my needs and wants.  It goes both ways.  It really is a balancing act.

He leaves home every day to provide for our family.  It is only fair that I maintain our home and try to make life as easy as possible for him.  After all, who makes it possible for me to stay home with our kids?  Who pays the bills?  He even does most of the grocery shopping.  I don't feel like his maid or his servant.  I am his wife.

The more I give.  The more I get in return.

Two people giving 100% to make a relationship work.

I know it is all semantics.   Just a different way of saying the same thing.


  1. Semantics it is but I like your way.

  2. Very good points Rose. Personally, I don't like the word submission at all, I prefer yielding. Went into a bit of explanation on Clint's blog several months ago. ;)

    Whatever the semantics, whatever the structure, it's working for you and your Dragon and that is what is important.


  3. I know some do see it as a gift but I get too much back in return. It is very rewarding. A little different view on a topic I have seen pop up in a few blogs lately.

  4. That's an excellent way to look at it though! :)

  5. That is what I think. I mean if he is out all day providing for us, the least I can do is make sure his favorite sweats are clean, dinner is in the making, and the bills are paid.

  6. Good point. There is much in return.

  7. Completely agree Rose. Two people, fitting together in a relationship, each bringing the best of her/him.
    Each getting what they wish. Who cares about definitions.