A Hard Week

One of my husbands cousins passed away this week.  A healthy 48 year old father, grandfather and minister taken so very fast.  In less than two weeks he went from not feeling good to multiple organ failure on a ventilator.  

Family means the deep south.  Georgia, Alabama, Florida, Mississippi, Tennessee, Louisiana and Texas.  We are over 2000 miles away.  A 30 plus hour drive.  With Dragon unemployed, that isn't going to happen.  The separation can be hard at times.  

Add the distance to the face book drama and you have a mess.  When I first got my account I friended most of our family.  His family and mine.  My family is crazy, I know that but my family looks normal in comparison.  That I don't get along with MIL is common knowledge.  As soon as I disagree with her, her side of the family jumps ship.  

The only ones that stuck around are the ones who don't like MIL.  BLAG!  

Since FB is our major source of information about family happenings, those simple unfriending clicks turned into a major inconvenience for us.  We were getting information hours old, second and third hand.  Not very nice people.  Just because you don't like me, you pull us out of the information loop?  

What?  

Oh well.  

I have decided to try again.  

I talked to Dragon first about who I could try again with.  Kill them with kindness? Maybe this will change their minds about me.  Those who stuck around sure have.  

Dragon told me one person was off limits.  He said that I have tried enough.  If I send MIL a friend request I will get the punishment of all punishments.  A Barn Burner of epic proportions.  

Yes, I did consider sending her one before the threat.  She isn't worth that kind of spanking.  Nope, no way.  When she came for Dragons retirement last moth she was nasty to me.  I was nothing but polite and courteous.  She was just waiting for an excuse to jump all over me.  HA!  I didn't give her one.  Dragon didn't even need to threaten me with the paddles.  

What now?  When we are forced to be in the same room, I will continue to be polite.  No matter how ugly she is, I will remain kind.  The next offer of friendship comes from her.