Outside my kitchen window is a bird feeder. It is just a cheap plastic tube I picked up at Dollar General. Nothing fancy.
I hung it up in the tree last fall. The birds ignored it.
The grass turned from green to brown and the trees lost their leaves. And still the birds ignored the feeder.
Then the snow came.
Snow is not common down here in the south. We can go years without seeing a single flake. When the snow falls schools close, highways shut down and the city looks like a ghost town.
It wasn't very much snow. Just an inch or so. We were not impressed.
But the birds were! They huddled under the camper. It didn't provide much shelter but it is what they had. And still they ignored the feeder.
Finally Dragon went outside and threw some seeds under the camper and in the driveway where the snow had melted. He wasn't stingy with it either. He gave them enough to fill their hungry bellies. Now the birds won't stay away. I love it.
Watching the birds the other day I thought about my marriage with Dragon. It is filled with love and affection. Just like the bird feeder is filled with food. If I ignore the birds for more than two days, the feeder is emptied and the birds go away. I have to be diligent and keep the feeder filled.
With my relationship, we have to keep it well fed with love and affection. It doesn't happen automatically. It takes work and attention. If we were to ignore our need for these things eventually we would forget that we ever needed them. Our marriage would be as empty as the bird feeder is when I forget to check on it. We would find other ways to fulfill our needs and the marriage would be broken.
When was the last time you had a date night? A movie? They symphony or a car show? Maybe a picnic or even put-put golf. What do you like to do together?
Go out have some fun, just the two of you. Keep your marriage fed and you will keep coming back for more.