This DD thing we do is 100% consensual! Right? That means as a TiH I get a say in the rules and consequences. Right?
Do you see where this is going?
It is a trap. What I am really saying is that I want to make the rules and tell my HOH exactly how to enforce them.
Yep. That works.
How long corner time should be. How hard swats should be and just what an acceptable punishment is! Yes. I even get to say when I should get a punishment! Right? I am 100% in control of TTWD. it has absolutely nothing to do with what my HOH wants. Nope. It is all about ME
Sounds a little selfish?
Yes, it does. It sounds just like a toddler. It is my way or you don't get to play.
I know that I fell into this trap when I first asked for DD. I wanted it my way. You know, like Burger King. Fortunately, Dragon had other ideas.
He is the HOH and I am the TiH. We discuss how things work but I don't always get my way. He leads his way. He does it in such a loving way that sometimes I don't even realize that he is doing it.
When he gives out a correction, it isn't necessarily a punishment. Sometimes it is just a gentle nudge in the right direction. This thing we do is about relationship. Admitting that two people can't steer the boat at the same time. One boat can only go one direction at a time.
I may just be thinking to much. Ya think?