Why is sex a dirty word with christians? ? I am a life long Christian and have often asked that question. Sex provides the heat that warm the heart of a marriage. It heals and brings the couple closer than any other action can.
For the wife, it is the ultimate act of submission. He asserts his dominance when he enters her body. It defines the role of husband and wife. Even the act of making love, of touching, caressing and kissing brings an intimacy that is impossible to get while you are sitting across the room from each other.
Now add in the more interesting things. Spanking? Now dear husband is an abuser? Whips and chains? Oh my, you crazy man. Get away from her. A knife? Bondage?
QUICK! CALL THE POLICE!
We do the things we do because it feels good. That flogger feels like a gentile leather rain. Nothing happens unless we BOTH consent. There are safe words to let each other know in a single syllable what is going on mentall . No mind reading going on.
We talk about the things we do with other people to stay safe. Some of the things we do are not safe to do without the knowledge that others have. Suspension and Bondage for example. Someone can really get hurt if it is done wrong. We are open and honest with each other when we meet in groups. We talk about kinky things and sex. We meet to share knowledge.
One dominant will show another how to use a flogger or introduce a submissive to the Violet Wand. There may be a fire play demo or knife work. Branding and maybe even a single tail whip. So many yummy things.
Is is un-christian? I don't think so. Sex and love making takes place within the confines of marriage. Play and learning among friends.
You have to learn this stuff somewhere!
I think that if people would loosen up and enjoy sex the divorce rates would be much lower. You learn something new from a friend and want to try it out. Suddenly that cold bed gets a lot warmer.
Try something new. Add a few sprinkles to your boring old vanilla marriage. It is as simple as buying a scarf to learn bondage or discover the joys of a blindfold. Bring a glass of ice water to the bedroom and discover what a chilling effect it has when you dip your fingers in it before you caress her.
Relax, communicate and ask lots of questions.
Sex and kink are not dirty. Open up your mind and find out what you are missing!