No, not me. It was my daughter.
She got a late night phone call from an ex boyfriend. "I have X and you gave it to me."
I am not sure what I could have done at 2 am but I did try to calm her down.
A little advice if you ever get one of those calls.
1. Consider motive. Is he just trying to scare you?
2. Have you had any symptoms of X?
3. Have you put yourself at risk of getting X?
4. Does his story sound credible?
All of these questions applied to my daughter. The chances of her having X and not knowing it were remote. Since X is spread by IV drug use and not by vanilla sex, she probably didn't give it to him even if he has it. His story wasn't even credible. He is being treated by a doctor for something else but got a home test for this one issue?
Geez! How stupid does this guy think we are?
Okay, she was gullible enough to believe him. Thankfully mom, dad and her roommate all had cooler heads.
Oh wait. I missed #1. Motive
She dumped him. She had many reasons to do it but she hurt his little pride.
He wanted to hurt her.
He wanted to scare her
He wanted to put her under even more financial strain and stress.
But daddy fixed it.
Since we can't find a doctor that will accept our insurance, we took her to a doc in the box. Medical attention for the fast food generation.
They tested her for everything they could think of plus a few extras just in case.
The results were not unexpected.
"Honey, your blood sugar was a little high but everything else is fine."
Everything was negative?
Yes, mam. That boy didn't get X from you.
I have a very confused daughter right now. She doesn't know whether she should be happy for the negative results, mad at him for the lie or mad at herself for believing him.
A little more advice from a mom?
Don't panic. Get tested even if it sounds far fetched. And most important? Be safe. Don't put yourself in a situation to be scared by an idiot.
I just wish I knew the laws concerning this situation better. I am sure he is guilty of some kind of crime. I just don't know what.
What have I learned out of this?
-If she insists on taking risks with her health, I am not obligated to listen to her drama at 2 am.
-I raised her right and educated her. She knows the risks.
-If this happens again she can deal with it herself. I won't give up my anniversary date to take her to the doctor.
-She is an adult. It is way past time for her to act like it.
Lots of lessons learned. By me anyway. We will have to wait and see if she learned anything.