I had never thought of safe words as withdrawing consent but Sara's blog post made me think. Is it really? If you get right down to it, calling red is withdrawing consent. Even if it is only for a moment. Enough time for me to change positions or change implements. But in that moment I have withdrawn my consent for him to continue.
I can call red at any time.
I can even completely red out of a punishment.
What usually happens? I have some time to think. Get a little distance from him and the situation. Then I go back to him, we talk and I get spanked.
I'll have to think about this for a while. I need those safe words. I do. But the idea that it is withdrawing consent has me rattled. It will take a little time to work this out in my head again.