Yes. Here it goes again. Why? This is the only place I can.
My mil lures you in with sweetness, love and affection. She is kind, giving and generous.
Until she isn't any more.
One little miss step and it is on.
She uses your insecurities against you. Her middle daughter is belemic. Not spelled right but you get the idea. She has a new husband and moved to a new city. Her asthma has gotten bad again. Instead of bling the new environment, she blames her daughter's weight gain. For the first time ever she actually looks healthy but no. She had to put her daughter right back into crisis mode just months after her husband got her eating habits on track.
The witch did the same thing to me but the problem is that it backfired.
Her daughters grovel to make up. Her son gave her an ultimatum back in '99. Accept my wife or have nothing to do with me or my family.
Looks like she made her choice.
I never made the connection but I have now. That is what abusers do. They do something nasty and make you feel like it is your fault. That you deserve what you got.
That is what she does.
Not anymore. She took her anger out on my kids. Never again. She thrives on the pity she gets as a result of her own actions. I refuse to be part of it.
Good for you for doing what is right for you and your family.
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I don't know why I was so blind to what she is for so long. She physically abuses the grandkids. That is why she was never allowed to keep my kids. It didn't occur to me that she was emotionally abusive too. Thanks for the environment. I need it right now.
DeleteVery proud of you, Rose...she's not the kind of role model your children need. Sending prayers and positive energy for all y'all.
ReplyDeleteHugs and blessings...Cat
For years I covered up her nastiness. The kids never knew we offered to buy her plane tickets. They never knew she didn't send them so much as a Christmas card. It all came out at the top of her lungs as she screamed her hate at my kids. Now they know. They see her for what she is and I didn't have to say a word. It breaks my heart. I wanted them to see their grandparents like I saw mine. She is no role model at all. You are right. Thank you.
DeleteNot an easy choice, but a necessary one for all of you....hugs abby
ReplyDeleteIt was her choice not mine. She forgot the conversation she had with Dragon years ago but he didn't. She chose her hate over her son.
DeleteNot easy - but you have to do what is best for you.
ReplyDeleteAll relationships need boundaries. Dragon set the boundary years ago and she made her choice. It is best.
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