Friday, January 27, 2012

If You talk the Talk

Make an effort to walk the walk every day of the week!

Yipee!  give me a minute I'll get to the point!  My baby brother (BB)  is getting married!  She (SiL) is sweet  and makes him happy.  What more could I ask?  He picked a girl so much like his big sister it is scary.  She loves animals, hates people, is afraid of most me and her family thinks she is a bad joke.  Yep.  That's me.

For the first time since he got engaged to his first wife BB is talking to me.  We were very close when we were kids but his first wife didn't like me.  Now I know why he was so distant all those years.  HER!  He has been so unhappy for the last 10 years.  It was heart breaking for big sis to watch.  My laughing, clown of a brother turned into a quiet, withdrawn man.  I never understood the change until now.  I also found out why he refuses to go to church even though I know he is a christian.

Dislike is an understatement when it comes to the ex. The two of us never got along.  The dislike was mutual.  The witch went to church every Sunday, sang in the choir and went to ladies Bible study.  After 7 years of marriage she cheated on BB with a married man she went to church with. She divorced BB to marry this other guy.  I hope that they have an open marriage.  Monogamy is improbable!

*one of BB's issues with "church people"

It just so happens that his boss goes to church BB grew up in.  Boss is a nice well to do Sunday Christian.  He preaches a good sermon and says all the right things in Sunday school.  Come Monday morning Boss is an entirely different person.  BB wouldn't tell me much about it.  He is confiding in me like he did before the ex but he is still a very private person.

*issue #2 Sunday Christians

Please, if you talk a big game at church, make sure you live up to your words.  Jesus teaches us to be humble.  To take up our cross and follow him.  Not just on Sunday but every day of the week.  Don't talk about how big your mansion is going to be in heaven or pretend you are any better than the next person.  We are all sinners.  Humble yourself before God and His church.  Have the untainted faith of a child.

Oh be careful little eyes what you see
Oh be careful little ears what you hear
Oh be careful little mouth what you say
For the father up above is looking down in love

You never know who is watching.
The Bible tells us not to cause someone else to sin.  How does arrogance in the church affect those who are "unworthy"?  How does the clickish attitude of a church affect the young lady trying to learn about the love of Christ?  Is it ok to be unkind to someone who strikes you wrong?

No one is worthy of the love of God.  We are all sinners.  Please be humble in all that you do.  No one is perfect.  I know this.  Go out of your way to show kindness.  Have a gentile heart.

Please pray for BB and SiL.  I pray that every thing works out for them and that they both realize "Church" is not a bad place.  I pray that he can forgive his ex and have a successful relationship with SiL.  SiL has more issues that I do.  I pray for BB to have the patience to help her.  To realize her full potential.  I pray for her to learn how to trust BB and see that he isn't like all the men who have hurt her.

Please, Don't be a Sunday Christian.  Be a Christian every second of every day of the week!  Don't be a stumbling block!  You never know who is watching!

And if you talk the BIG talk on Sunday morning, make sure you walk the walk the other 6 days of the week!

steps back from the pulpit and takes her seat in the shadows at the back of the church.  The mice love her quiet company. 


  1. Congrats to your Brother!
    I will pray for them. I have prayed for my "H" for years and just now he has been back to church for over 5 months and he is currently VERY involved with their sports program and youth.
    He hated the whole idea of church when we met. He had some bad experiences as a kid I guess.

    It's been over 13 years now and he just warmed up to the idea 6 moths ago in the new church I had been going to.
    I enjoy having someone to go with besides the kids, and I try not to talk or push anything on him.
    It's working out well, in fact HE is there now and I'm here at home!

  2. Thank you for giving me a little hope there. I pray for him constantly. You can't imagine how happy I am to see HIM happy again. I haven't met SiL yet but I love her already!

  3. You know, cultural christianity runs rampant and I see what you are talking about all the time. It can be a turn-off or we can realize that each of us have to hold ourselves accountable for what we believe and how we will live, based on our own convictions. Some of my very favorite people are not christians but they absolutely live what they believe and have a deep sense of integrity. Those are the ones I search out for friendship.

    Congratulations to your brother (there is something about our 'little' brothers, isn't there?) I do hope they find their way and really hope that you find a friend in your new SIL. It sounds like it might be a neat relationship for you. I hope you can win her over and befriend her some.

  4. How exciting! Congrats to your brother. I hope they have a long, happy marriage. :)

  5. I'm very glad your brother is happy again DR. I hope it works out for them :) And I really like Susie's 1st paragraph in her comment.

  6. Susie, I do see cultural Christianity for what it is, personal choice. Church is full of sinners, just as it should be. I will continue to pray for my not so little brother. I haven't met SiL yet but she makes him happy. We have talked on the phone several times. I love her already!

    Thanks Grace, I hope they grow old together.

    Dee, BB is calling me Sis again! I thought I would never him call me that again! Love it! For now all I can do is pray.