The belt holds a place of fear in my mind. We have been working on that fear for years. Dragon is patient and is slowly chipping away at all those old fears.
First he just let me see it in his hand. After a few months he stroked my bare skin with the smooth leather. Then came light taps that didn't even come close to stinging.
Last week I asked for a real spanking with the belt. I'll admit that I called RED long before it began to really hurt but I'm closer. The blind lizard brained fear never hit. I called my safe would when I began to feel my heart race.
Panic would have undone all the progress we have made. We will see what happens next time.