Monday, December 15, 2014

Punishment should NEVER be erotic???

I keep seeing this said. Usually on Christian Domestic Discipline pages.  I have to admit that I really don't understand it.  My husband is supposed to discipline his nude wife, stand me in a corner with my red bottom on display and be completely unaffected. I wouldn't want a spanking of any kind to be that impersonal.

Just before a punishment, he gets nervous.  Every time.  He has never explained why, just told me that it happens.  Then comes the little lecture.  It is never long.  My Dragon doesn't get long winded.  Then he gives me the next step.

I find out how much I am required to undress.  Spanked over my clothes is a rewarding for submission.  It is less embarrassing but Dragon can't see the results of each swat so those tend to be harder.  Usually about 30 moderate to hard swats.

Jeans down panties up. That doesn't leave much protection and is probably the most humiliating.  He bunches my panties up in the center and uses them as a handle to hold me still.  The paddle falls on bare cheeks with  the extra discomfort of straining panties.  These swats mostly fall on the sit spot.  Owie!  Cussing and forgetting my seatbelt put me in this position.

Jeans and panties off.  These last a little longer.  He covers more of my backside and throws in a few swats centered on my girl parts.  Gently because these are intended to startle and not really hurt.

Completely nude.  He is trying to make a point.  Embarrassment is one goal.  This one usually has more of a warm up because it is going to last longer.  

We haven't discussed the differences.  These are things I have noticed over time.  Something else that is obvious?  He gets aroused. That bulge is hard not to see.  If he wasn't affected by punishment I would be worried. I am usually in some state of undress.  I would be very concerned if he didn't find my body sexy.

He gets a view of the spanking that I have never had.  The lilly white skin first turning pink then red.  He finds my squirming sexy too.  I can't stay still no matter how hard I try.  He hears my squeaks and panting.

As soon as the first swat falls his nervousness is gone.  Replaced with determination and that crooked grin of his.  Our emotions go in opposite directions and that is just fine.

DD would end if he got nothing out of it. He gets pleasure.  I get release.  I get a way to let go of the guilt that I tend to hold on to.  He gets a very submissive wife which we both like.  Punishment makes submitting to him easier.

A punishment always ends with sex.  Why?  Spanking is hot.  Yes, even a punishment.  I need to know that he still wants me. That he loves me with everything that he is. He needs to know that it is okay. He just gave me a humiliating and painful spanking.  He needs to know that I am not angry at him and that he hasn't damaged our relationship somehow.

The arousal and love making are both very important. We both NEED it.  I can't imagine standing up after a spanking and not being aroused.  His hands on my body in the most intimate way.  How can I help it?  I want to see his body react to mine.  Making love in the aftermath of a punishment is like nothing else.  It is hot and a little desperate. I feel very uninhibited.  No shyness left.

It allows us to reconnect in a way that is absolutely amazing.

Yes, we are Christian and we are DD.  No, we don't use the Bible to guide, describe or defend DD.  It is just simply part of who we are.  Dragon doesn't punish me very often.  It isn't necessary but I can't imagine our relationship without it.  I can't imagine someone else telling me how DD is supposed to fit into our lives. I can't imagine trying to make something so personal fit into a set of arbitrary rules and guidelines.


The spider bite is nearly healed. The black center is slowly coming off and the swelling is nearly gone.  My immune system is still in hyperdrive but I can't do anything about that.

If Dragon gets home at a reasonable hour, I am going to ask for a stress relief spanking.  These look like a punishment without the strong emotions that come with one.  From fully dressed to fully nude.  Mild to barn burner.  After I ask for it, my control over the results is over with.  Since the garage will be cool I doubt he will completely undress me.

Here is hoping he gets off at a reasonable time.  I really need to reconnect and he needs to know that I am okay after the scare with the spider bite.  I can't think of a better way to get back on track.


  1. Hope you get your wish. Good to hear about the spider bite healing, was a little worried about that.

    1. It looks a lot better. Still has a bruised look but much smaller and the black is nearly gone. Thanks

  2. Hey Rose...bottom line...TTWD is whatever works for each couple and what you described works for you and your Dragon which is all that matters. ;)

    Happy to hear your spider bite is getting better. Sending lots of positive energy that Dragon gets off at a reasonable hour and is in the mood for a bit of play!

    Hugs and Blessings...

    1. It something so personal. Guidance is fine but following a rule book someone else wrote is impossible.

  3. THanks for this post (which was quite hot, btw). :) I especially appreciate your post because this is sort of a sore point for me. It took me 40 years to admit my interest in spanking because of the shaming around it. Pretending it doesn't have a sexual component only piles more shame on the issue. It is also a very "sex negative" viewpoint. Is it wrong to be aroused by spanking? Why?

    Glad your spider bite is better, and I"m hoping to get a spanking tonight too! :)

    1. I have always wondered why religion tends to make sexuality dirty and deviant. It isn't and shouldn't be. What is so bad about kink, spanking and admitting that a strong, dominant husband is a turn on? I don't understand it either. I leave the stuffed shirts to their holy rollin. I'll have some fun.