Dragon has decided to go back to school. With our already busy schedule that doesn't leave much time for us. We went out last night to celebrate our anniversary. It was nice. Time for just us but right now that is rare.
That's okay. The kids are growing up fast and they will be off living their own lives soon. I can do hectic for now.
No fun kinky play. Discipline has been reduced to stern looks.
I am looking forward to the Christmas holidays. Dragon will be working but he won't have school. Something to look forward to.
We wanted to record our journey as we learn how to incorporate Domestic Discipline into our lives. I am a wife who has been Taken-in-Hand by her husband. I am loved and cherished by him. I am his little china doll and he is mine forever.
Saturday, September 30, 2017
Monday, September 25, 2017
In The News
More NFL players are taking a knee. Why? I honestly don't think most of them understand why they are doing it. Team solidarity for one.
I think they need to pay attention to their fans. You know. The people who buy expensive tickets and over priced merchandise. I honestly don't care what Trump has to say about it but apparently some people are having a complete melt down over it.
Just take a look at You Tube and you will see what real people think about it. The news only tells the story they want you to hear.
And then you have one lone player that stands while his team hides in the locker room.
I think the fans have spoken. We enjoy our freedoms that are protected by the Bill of Rights. The football stars can kneel and the fans can stay home.
What do you think?
I think they need to pay attention to their fans. You know. The people who buy expensive tickets and over priced merchandise. I honestly don't care what Trump has to say about it but apparently some people are having a complete melt down over it.
Just take a look at You Tube and you will see what real people think about it. The news only tells the story they want you to hear.
And then you have one lone player that stands while his team hides in the locker room.
What do you think?
Sunday, September 24, 2017
Self Defense Class
If you have never had a self-defense class, take one! I took my first ever class today and I want more! It was fun and I learned more than I expected. Punching, kicking, twisting. Give him more than he asked for. Be generous in the a$$ kicking deployment. Don't stop until you get away. The only rule is to keep moving.
Not much of an update, I know but it is what I have. Hope you had a great weekend!
Not much of an update, I know but it is what I have. Hope you had a great weekend!
Tuesday, September 19, 2017
Memories
I got a call this week that left me a little stunned. My ex husband passed away. They are calling it natural causes but I suspect the meth was a major factor.
His family asked my daughter what songs she would like for the funeral. There is a problem. All the normal daddy songs won't work. Daddy's Hands, Dancing with Cinderella, Butterfly Kisses. Those songs talk about relationship and love. She never had either one with him.
He never could just be content. He had to be the center of attention at a party. Add in weed, meth and Natural light and the party was on. I know for a fact that he would love Margaritas ville and Red Solo Cup.
We finally settled on this one.
What do you think? Any more ideas? This is hard.
Highway to Hell was on my short list but I don't think his family would approve.
Inappropriate suggestions welcome. I am relieved he is gone. I don't have to hide anyone. I can visit my family and not be afraid.
His family asked my daughter what songs she would like for the funeral. There is a problem. All the normal daddy songs won't work. Daddy's Hands, Dancing with Cinderella, Butterfly Kisses. Those songs talk about relationship and love. She never had either one with him.
He never could just be content. He had to be the center of attention at a party. Add in weed, meth and Natural light and the party was on. I know for a fact that he would love Margaritas ville and Red Solo Cup.
We finally settled on this one.
Highway to Hell was on my short list but I don't think his family would approve.
Inappropriate suggestions welcome. I am relieved he is gone. I don't have to hide anyone. I can visit my family and not be afraid.
Sunday, September 17, 2017
Going Gray
It happens. My hair is getting lighter and lighter. I love it. To me it is an honor. So many people never have the privilege of seeing those white strands multiply.
Years ago, when I just had a few shiny white strands, my mother insisted that it was time to cut my hair short and color it. Remember those old commercials?
Yep. That is what came to my mind. I looked at my mom like she had lost her mind. The last time I let her style my hair I ended up with a gravity defying boufaunt and a banana clip. Nope nope nope.
Now my hair is even longer. My mother looks at my hair with a sour look on her face.
After years of nagging I decided to give in and used blue splat. Then my daughters started getting into the act.
My poor mom.
Recently I looked in the mirror and realized my once dark hair isn't so dark anymore. I'm not sad at all. It makes my fun colors show up even brighter. I let Dragon pick the color and now I have very fun, very long hair. Without damaging my hair with bleach, I have a fantastic vivid color.
Love it.
I love my gray and I love my fun colors!
Years ago, when I just had a few shiny white strands, my mother insisted that it was time to cut my hair short and color it. Remember those old commercials?
Now my hair is even longer. My mother looks at my hair with a sour look on her face.
After years of nagging I decided to give in and used blue splat. Then my daughters started getting into the act.
My poor mom.
Recently I looked in the mirror and realized my once dark hair isn't so dark anymore. I'm not sad at all. It makes my fun colors show up even brighter. I let Dragon pick the color and now I have very fun, very long hair. Without damaging my hair with bleach, I have a fantastic vivid color.
Love it.
I love my gray and I love my fun colors!
Tuesday, September 12, 2017
Strangers
Dragon asked if I had shared Strangers this year. Looking back at my blog I see that it has been several years. The journal is long gone. This is the only entry that remains. I know it is hard to read. Know that it was even harder to live.
Strangers
Why do I share this every year? Most people have no idea what it is like to be military. Most people have no idea what it is like to be the one left behind.
This was written at the beginning of a deployment to a war zone, at the mid point and finally back at the airport. The journal page was tear stained. That was the hardest deployment of a long career.
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I hate airports. They are places of tears. My body shakes as I try to control them. Then I look at my children and I see their hearts breaking. My own tears fall….He sees my tears and his iron grip of control begins to slip. People turn away. They can’t stand to see our pain. They know where he is going. They know we are left behind. I stand at the window watching the plane pull away from the gate. Walk that lonely walk back to the car. The drive home seems longer than ever. The house does not feel like home.
My best friend, my husband, the father of children has left. I don’t know where he is going. Don’t want to know. More questions than answers. When will he come home? Will he come home? How do I survive? He is my life. He is everything. I am me because he is with me. No more watching or reading the news. Not even just to read the headlines. Routine. Step by step each day I learn to survive. Run, breakfast, cut grass, shower, lunch, clean, check email, walk the dog. Same thing every day moving in a daze. I am afraid to hope.
At the airport again. The seasons have changed. But then so have I. I stand at the arrival gate waiting for a stranger. He is my husband and the father of my children. My tears fall once again. I am nervous and afraid. Will he really come home this time. Will everything be the same? I hope so. There he is. I see him. He has cut his hair again, his skin is darker, his eyes are different. I expect his hug to feel the same but it doesn’t. He walks ahead of me much faster than I can keep up to get to the luggage pickup. I know I should understand why but I don’t and he can’t explain. We are strangers again.
a military wife
This was written at the beginning of a deployment to a war zone, at the mid point and finally back at the airport. The journal page was tear stained. That was the hardest deployment of a long career.
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I hate airports. They are places of tears. My body shakes as I try to control them. Then I look at my children and I see their hearts breaking. My own tears fall….He sees my tears and his iron grip of control begins to slip. People turn away. They can’t stand to see our pain. They know where he is going. They know we are left behind. I stand at the window watching the plane pull away from the gate. Walk that lonely walk back to the car. The drive home seems longer than ever. The house does not feel like home.
My best friend, my husband, the father of children has left. I don’t know where he is going. Don’t want to know. More questions than answers. When will he come home? Will he come home? How do I survive? He is my life. He is everything. I am me because he is with me. No more watching or reading the news. Not even just to read the headlines. Routine. Step by step each day I learn to survive. Run, breakfast, cut grass, shower, lunch, clean, check email, walk the dog. Same thing every day moving in a daze. I am afraid to hope.
At the airport again. The seasons have changed. But then so have I. I stand at the arrival gate waiting for a stranger. He is my husband and the father of my children. My tears fall once again. I am nervous and afraid. Will he really come home this time. Will everything be the same? I hope so. There he is. I see him. He has cut his hair again, his skin is darker, his eyes are different. I expect his hug to feel the same but it doesn’t. He walks ahead of me much faster than I can keep up to get to the luggage pickup. I know I should understand why but I don’t and he can’t explain. We are strangers again.
a military wife
Monday, September 11, 2017
Pain
Steps up to soap box
I deal with chronic pain on almost a daily basis. Unfortunately I am allergic to most pain relievers. The only one I can take is Tylenol. And that stuff is toxic even at low doses. It doesn't touch my pain. Absolutely no relief.
At one point the pain was so bad that I was willing to turn the marijuana to find some relief. Thankfully it is illegal here and Dragon has issues with breaking the law. With my luck, I would have a massive allergic reaction to the stuff.
One day, curled up in the fetal position, I nearly gave up. Somehow during that really hard period, we figured out that alcohol cut the pain. Not the hip and back pain. Or even the pain that turns my hands into claws. But just a little whiskey reduced the headaches and facial pain.
Somehow alcohol has become my go-to drug when I just can't stand it any.
I'm careful. I know the risk. I never drink if I know I am going to drive. When I see that I've been drinking too much, I back off. Sometimes I'll go for days without a drink. If the pain isn't bad, I don't touch it.
The alternative is curling up and whispering 10 10 10. The other alternative is prescription drugs. Those drugs are just as addictive and I can't take them anyway.
If the head and facial pain is only at 6 or 7, I deal with it. 8 and above I start looking for relief.
I didn't know how Dragon always seems to know when I'm hurting. Today he told me. I loose mobility in my face. Half smiles. Slurred speech and aphasia.
Here is the biggest mystery. When Dragon starts getting concerned about how much I'm drinking, I quit for a few days or even weeks on my own. The bottles just sit there. I'm not even tempted. My daily limit is usually 4 shots for an entire day. Normal is less.
People judge me for it but I just don't care. You want to judge how I live, you try living even one day with my pain. Yes. I know what alcoholism does to a family. Yes I know what it does to my body but the alternative is suicide. I couldn't stand the pain any more.
Steps off of soap box
Friday, September 8, 2017
Subspace
Dragon needed to study. He is taking two classes from a local college. But he couldn't settle down and get it done. The reading material is tuff. I'll give him that much credit.
He read about half of the required material and gave up for the day. We sat down to watch Netflix for a little while. It didn't take him very long to figure out I needed his touch.
He grabbed my hands and held them in his strong grip.
I was done.
Subspace
That's all it took.
No, our play didn't end there. He wouldn't pass up an opportunity like that. Absolute submission.
I slept better than I have in months.
He read about half of the required material and gave up for the day. We sat down to watch Netflix for a little while. It didn't take him very long to figure out I needed his touch.
He grabbed my hands and held them in his strong grip.
I was done.
Subspace
That's all it took.
No, our play didn't end there. He wouldn't pass up an opportunity like that. Absolute submission.
I slept better than I have in months.